If not one of us is perfect, we all make mistakes, and we all know and accept this as the truth-a fact of life on Earth, why do some...

• ...Feel the insatiable need to look for and find fault with another's actions?

• Finding fault is a learned behavior that creates the opposite of a good thing to result.  It is not an innate good thing that happens naturally by itself.  It is not a Godlike or childlike behavior.  It is a negative energy (the opposite of good, the opposite of positive energy), created as a result of deliberate choice by way of ones thinkin.  Each individual who makes the choice (for good or goods opposite) must be willing to take full accountability and responsiblity for the outcomes that result from it.
  
• Finding fault certainly keeps individuals, families, societies, nations and countries from enjoying the peace that could otherwise exist if no fault finding was in play.  Entire industries have been created as a result of fault finding and those industries only cultivate, nurture, and grow similar corrupt thinking, and a very high price is to be paid both financially and in terms of destroying the peace that would otherwise exist.  Law enforcement, lawyers, the legal trade as well as the Court system and its Judges and judgemental staff are all very busy with intent and focused on fault finding activity.  But I must ask you, how productive is that activity when compared with its opposite, had that choice been willingly made?
  
• Fault finding is like pointing the finger of condemnation upon another. 
• RULE OF THUMB:  If you point your finger (find fault with another) your hand naturally has three more of your own fingers pointing condemnation right back at you.  If you are not perfect, why find fault with another?  Others are fully capable of recognizing, finding fault with their own thoughts, actions and willing to make their own self-corrections in behavior as time goes on, if they too are seeking a life filled with peace and all good things.

Sometimes finding fault leads one to get upset with themselves or another person when a mistake is made?

• Where is the patience, understanding or being loving in that person who finds fault: gets upset, shouts, gets angry and or looses his/her temper?  Is doing these things a sign of Intelligence and maturity or a lacking in both?  Perhaps it should be said, this mistake (getting upset), is equal to, if not a greater mistake than the mistake the other person made in the first place; all things considered!
 
• When someone gets upset, it only shows that they are not more or less perfect than the one who made the initial mistake.  Both are mistakes, because both required choices of each individual to be made that created the opposite of a good thing; the opposite of pure positive energy to follow which energy brings about the peace and progress in ones life that would otherwise be known.
  
• If the mistake made was not yours personally, why make things worse, adding more mistakes to the situation by getting upset?
  
• If you are partly responsible for the mistake that was made, because you could have, should have and or were responsible in some way to educate the other more fully about things before that particular choice and mistake was made (as in the parent / child / family relationship), then just calmly, caringly and humbly apologize for not doing your part and ask for their forgiveness yourself.  Take the time to explain things more fully now, so that real learning and progress is not lost, and real peace is created and maintained, happiness with a joy untold is experienced, while bonding, loving supportive and encouraging ties are set in place in the process to strengthen the relationship, in the things you think, say and do subsequent to the mistake being made.
  
• ...Choose to forgive anothers mistakes right away while others don't?
  
• If the mistake requires some price to be paid to restore or make amends for damage done, the forgiving, this benevolent and healing act of forgiveness can and should be exercised quickly if real peace, harmony and unity is to be created among us?
  
• Forgiving right away, does not mean you pretend the mistake was not made, sweep it under the rug sort-of-speak, and just move on without exploring openly and thoroughly why it was made, willingly working together to decide what must be done to prevent a repeat, and going through whatever good and healthy steps are necessary to turn the mistake (the negative thing creating negative energy or the opposite of good) into a positive thing and good learning experience, creating positive energy and doing good all along the way.
  
• ...Choose never to forgive others for certain offenses at all? 
• Who is in charge of what is and is not acceptable or unforgivable - you?  I'd say, this is your right and choice for your own personal life, but not so for you to determine or decide for another (until you reach a Godlike state, which none of us has acheived, but could acheive in this lifetime if we all choose the good over its opposite and truly cared for one another as we could and ought to do - from a loving or good and Godlike perspective on things). 
• Be wise and f.o.l.l.o.w. the example set by the those who are perfect, fully qualified and authorized to Judge anothers actions.  Of each of them it has been said, "I will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men" (meaning all men and all women who make mistakes).

Since it is not our place to judge another, and a requirement to forgive, perhaps at the very least we would do well to ask these three questions after a mistake is made (so that real learning and progress can take place).

1. What were you thinking about before, during and after acting out in this way?
2. What were you feeling before, during and after acting out in this way?
3. What did you learn from the experience?

If these three questions above don't lead to an improved situation, good learning and progress, then perhaps it is time to explain things in more detail:

1. Not all thoughts you have are your own.  Ask, do you understand how to tell from what source a particular or given thought has came from (sources being good or goods opposite)?  It may just make all the difference in the world to know and understand this one important thing.
   
2. Having a particular thought is not something you can always control, but you can and do most certainly control how long that thought remains and what you will do with it.  The moment you accept a thought as your own and believe it, you have made a choice, and must take full accountability and responsibility for it.
   
3. Thoughts are like seeds.  They can and do create things as well as alter or shape ones perspective and feelings about things.  The more you cultivate and nurture your thoughts (thinking about them, accepting them as your own), the more they will grow, yielding fruits of the same in the forms of words and actions and deeds; which in turn creates even more fruits of the same in what is called the harvest, the end results.  (It's called "the law of the harvest", its an eternal law and is an integral part of the very powers of creation with which you were endowed, to exercise your own free will and make choices that you alone must be held accountable and responsible for.  So, think good things and make good choices so good things will happen, to you and all those whom you love and care about, as they willingly do the same.

• Lastly:

• RULE OF THUMB:  Be a friend, be loving and do good in all you think, say and do.  If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything.